Thank you note for a thank you gift?

Got a phone call the other day from a friend wanting to know if she needed to send a thank you note for a thank you gift. She didn’t think she needed to but just wanted to make sure. And no, a thank you for a thank you is not needed. Just an “Oh, that’s so nice of you!” is really all that is required. (If the thank you gift wasn’t given in person, the next time you talk/write the sender, just mention it.

(If you need custom thank you notes, just shoot us an email and we can work something out. Boxed note cards are being designed but if you can’t wait we’ll be happy to work with you!)

Children at the Wedding

A question that I was asked this month is, “We don’t want kids at the wedding. How do we express that on the invitation?”

As it’s considered rude to put “No children please” on the wedding invitation, the only thing you can do is when addressing the envelopes, address it to “Mr. and Mrs. <name>” and not “The <Names>.” It should be understood that if someone’s name is not on the invitation, they are not invited. Also, you have to be consistent. You can’t allow for some people to bring their kids while telling others that they must get a sitter; that’s how feelings get *really* hurt. Make no exceptions: all kids or no kids. And if you choose not to invite kids, I would make it known to close family members, so that should an aunt or cousin ask them if their kids will be welcome, the family member can say accurately “yes” or “no.” (If you’re afraid you’ll feel like a scrooge not inviting the kids, feel free to use the excuses “financial reasons” or “we’re afraid they’ll be so bored.”)

Out of town wedding guests

Recently I was asked, “Are the bride’s parents to pay for their out of town family’s traveling expenses?”

I knew that wasn’t right but to confirm, I went straight to Emily Post. 

“Guests who come from a distance pay their own transportation and lodging expenses. The parents of the bride or groom should assist their relatives and friends by making reservations or sending them hotel/motel information, and may offer to pay any expenses they wish to assume, but are not at all required to do so. They may also accept the offers of local friends and relatives to provide accommo- dations for out-of-town guests in their homes.”